tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18435846.post8132854633870381072..comments2023-10-21T03:29:13.119-07:00Comments on Herbal Connection: Discharged!Marionhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00607220451457829777noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18435846.post-53975829087448976922006-12-11T06:00:00.000-08:002006-12-11T06:00:00.000-08:00Mrs. Cleaver, I posted your comment here today...t...Mrs. Cleaver, I posted your comment here today...thank you for your good wishes.<br /><br />I will continue today, and will see if I can find some answers.Marionhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00607220451457829777noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18435846.post-72213386001516268962006-12-11T05:59:00.000-08:002006-12-11T05:59:00.000-08:00Hi Marion --
For some reason, I am usually unabl...Hi Marion --<br /> <br />For some reason, I am usually unable to comment on your blog. <br /> <br />I just caught up with a few entries and am sorry for what you are going through with your Mom. We are always told universal health care in Canada is such a great thing, but it seems like you are hitting every brickwall they have! I hope you find out soon the answers to your questions. <br /> <br />Take care and know that others are thinking of you and sending you strength.<br /> <br />Dee (Mrs. Cleaver)Marionhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00607220451457829777noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18435846.post-12252018865666944452006-12-10T14:27:00.000-08:002006-12-10T14:27:00.000-08:00Absolutely concur with you on the P of A, DB. One ...Absolutely concur with you on the P of A, DB. One of us has a very limited financial Power of Attorney with the bank...Mom would not listen to our advice for a full P of A, and never designated anyone.<br /><br />So here we are...hopefully, I can convince medical authorities on Monday that we need questions answered! And thanks for this...I may be able to persuade Mom to give us Power of Attorney now.<br /><br />Yesterday, I convinced her of the need for an overnight caregiver, and the need to have her groceries delivered, instead of haphazardly relying on one of us, because she didn't want to pay delivery bills, lol.<br /><br />It always happens...I get raring to go...and then the weekend happens. And places are closed, etc. But it is a great cooling down period for me.<br /><br />Mom is staying alone overnight, and constantly gets tangled with the Oxygen tubing in her power wheel chair.<br /><br />The Nurse never did arrange anything with Homecare; when I phoned the next morning, they had no idea her situation had changed. So she gets little further help there until Monday.<br /><br />After spending the day with her yesterday, I can't see her taking care of herself during the day. It is through sheer will, still, that she has been able to do it for the last couple of days. But I see her will running down...she is giving in to the inevitable. Watching this is the saddest part...when the will to fight for some sort of life, leaves.<br /><br />Thank you so much for your wonderful thoughts and suggestions, DB!Marionhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00607220451457829777noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18435846.post-31025173476842131432006-12-10T14:03:00.000-08:002006-12-10T14:03:00.000-08:00It sounds like you're beginning to get a handle on...It sounds like you're beginning to get a handle on some concrete ways to deal with this situation. I'm sure once you talk to the doctor that will help. The doctor will be a big help in getting you set up with Hospice, if she's ready for that. Of course, right now, you don't know what she's ready for, because they haven't told you anything!!<br /><br />I don't mean this to sound preachy, but for those friends who are keeping up with your situation, this is why everyone needs to get a Power of Attorney and a Health Care Proxy done for parents before their minds are clouded by old age or dementia. I wish, for your sake, that one of your family members had that with your mother. Then you could legally override her decisions and force the medical people to deal with you, instead of her. Well, I should say, that's the way it is in the US, at least.Rosemaryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10226054665586033464noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18435846.post-88352704465490729282006-12-10T12:00:00.000-08:002006-12-10T12:00:00.000-08:00Matt, thank you for your words of comfort. I am w...Matt, thank you for your words of comfort. I am well protected...I try and live in each moment, instead of the future. I want some answers; I will get them next week without doubt.<br /><br />I just have to wait until then, lol.<br /><br />Dave, yes, there is a lesson in this somewhere. And I have relied heavily on my guides, who have guided me towards avenues that make this journey easier.<br /><br />thank you for your continuing words of peace.Marionhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00607220451457829777noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18435846.post-49908591172953417822006-12-10T11:53:00.000-08:002006-12-10T11:53:00.000-08:00Sheila, yesterday I spoke with Home Care and they'...Sheila, yesterday I spoke with Home Care and they're going to try and upgrade Mom.And there is a fairly active Hospice group also. It is because I have moved away that I have difficulty finding groups.<br /><br />Our medical system at one time was excellent. But it suffered huge cutbacks in recent years, and care has lapsed badly.<br /><br />DB, thank you for the name of that book, I am going to get it through Amazon. I don't know what has happened to the mindset of the Nurses and Doctors...a patient that is very old just might be seeing reality a little differently.Marionhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00607220451457829777noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18435846.post-20292471286414783702006-12-10T05:56:00.000-08:002006-12-10T05:56:00.000-08:00Marion,
As life progress there are things that hap...Marion,<br />As life progress there are things that happen to us that shake our spirit and we want the issues to be resolved. I hope that peace returns to your being and that the uncertainty of what you are going through will help you in your own journey. <br />I wish for you and your mother comfort and security. Let the guides in and use them.<br /><br />NamasteAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10571464333419314695noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18435846.post-27651502249267455292006-12-09T18:41:00.000-08:002006-12-09T18:41:00.000-08:00Marion, I am very sorry you and your family are go...Marion, I am very sorry you and your family are going through this, it is hard I know. Please don't forget to take care of yourself as well.<br /><br />- MattMatthew Mayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09919005584482014277noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18435846.post-34746560975090879742006-12-09T11:09:00.000-08:002006-12-09T11:09:00.000-08:00The difference between what I'm dealing with throu...The difference between what I'm dealing with through Hospice, covered by Medicare, and what you're dealing with, covered by National Health Care, is astounding!<br /><br />When my FIL was in the hospital recovering from bypass surgery, he had his nurse convinced that my dear sweet hubby was a drug dealer who threatened him regularly. She believed him!! It's amazing how they can manipulate gullible people who should know better.Rosemaryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10226054665586033464noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18435846.post-7747736090932873712006-12-09T08:41:00.000-08:002006-12-09T08:41:00.000-08:00As helpless as it makes me feel just reading this,...As helpless as it makes me feel just reading this, I can't even begin to imagine how you must feel.<br /><br />I would recommend that you read the book, <i>The 36 Hour Day,</i> which is about dealing with Alzheimer's. I've read it from cover to cover so many times my copy is marked up and dog eared. You'll recognize your mother all through it, and perhaps find some new strategies to use to help you get her to do what needs to be done.Rosemaryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10226054665586033464noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18435846.post-58115365996027474092006-12-09T08:29:00.000-08:002006-12-09T08:29:00.000-08:00Marion,
Is there a social worker or aging agency w...Marion,<br />Is there a social worker or aging agency who could intervene and help with your mom's situation? I don't know how things are set up in your area, but when I worked with the elderly our center tried to do case management to coordinate services for the seniors in our village. We provided a lot of services like transportation to doctors and for groceries and did everything possible to keep the folks at home if that was their wish and if they could manage with help. Somehow we in the U.S. think the system up there is better, but after hearing your story, I am thinking differenty.<br /><br />I am so sorry to hear about this and to think no one let you know what was going on.Sheilahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17482567840321600439noreply@blogger.com